Thursday, June 1, 2017

Day 115: Rude Awakening

So even though I hit another milestone within my company, I gotta step up my game Big Time!
We all strive to become better humans and for perfection within ourselves.
I started my business Feb 18, 2017 and so far I got 4 teamies (gals working with me, whom I like to consider sisters) actually in my company we do call ourselves Y-sisters = Younique Sisters.

Okay this is what I've realized, even though I got 4 Teamies now, I can't rest and sit back and enjoy the ride.
I gotta work harder and show "my sisters" how it's done. 
I have to lead by example.
Same like in marriage, once you sign on the dotted line, you still gotta work at your relationship.
So many times married people say to people whom are dating; "if you don't like what you see in your relationship now, it won't get better once you are married."
I tend to give up when things get hard in life, except within marriage, I would like to consider myself a good wife.
I like to be old fashioned and take care of my husband, meaning cleaning house, doing laundry, cooking etc.
I love being married and I feel flattered that one guy on this planet signed on the dotted line just for me, out of all the ladies in this world.
This makes me feel like a winner.
But we still have to work at our relationship.
Same like in business, we gotta keep working hard and keep re-discovering ourselves.
Being creative and pushing through the fear.
The adrenaline rush you feel when things go great and others want to join YOUR team out of all the other teams, is a spectacular feeling.
Finally I found my passion.
What's your passion?

Saturday, April 29, 2017

Day 114: Life is NOT an emergency!

Life isn't an emergency.

Life can be an enormously rewarding experience; a totally fulfilling and creative experience where virtually every activity is seen as yet another wonderful opportunity. 
Although it's often treated as one, life is not an emergency; it's not meant to be constantly postponed while we anxiously rush around and attempt to 'get everything done'.
Life is meant to be lived, one moment at a time.
Whether you are 18 years old or 80 years old, male or female, dark or light, rich or poor, you are given the same gift and it's administered in exactly the same way.
The gift is life itself and it's given to us one precious moment at a time.
Life isn't an emergency, it's an adventure.
Once you commit yourself to seeing life this way you will be amazed at how quickly your life will change for the better.
You will notice the beauty instead of the ugliness, the caring instead of the non-caring, and the grace instead of the misfortune.
Remember, life is NOT an emergency!

Tuesday, April 18, 2017

Day 113: Wisdom

Wise people throughout history have been those who saw that while life is real, life's problems are an illusion, they are thought-created. These people know that we manufacture and blow problems way out of proportion through are own ability to think. They also know that if we can step outside the boundaries of our own thinking, we can find the answer we are looking for.
This, in a nutshell is wisdom: the ability to see an answer without having to think of an answer.
Wisdom is the 'ah ha, that's so obvious' experience most of us have had many times.
Few people seem to understand that this voice is always available to us.
Wisdom is indeed your inner sense of knowing.
It is true mental health, a peaceful state of mind where answers to questions are as plentiful as the problems you see when you aren't experiencing wisdom.
It's as if wisdom lies in the space between your thoughts, in those quiet moments when your 'biological computer' is turned off.
Here is an example.
As an intelligent person, your usual pattern is to think and talk about your problems in an attempt to overcome them.
You feel that because your problems are 'real', you are justified in trying to solve them.
On the surface this seems rational, that is, until you realize that problems are thought-related.
In other words, the act of thinking about your problems is the mechanism that keeps them alive and makes them seem real.
To see this another way, try this experience.
Stop reading for a moment and think of a problem in your life.
There it is, right in front of you.
An interesting question to ask yourself is: where was the problem a moment ago, before you thought about it?
It wasn't with you because you weren't thinking about it.
This doesn't mean there aren't issues in  your life that need addressing, but it does suggest that those issues aren't 'problems' unless they are present in your mind.

Sunday, April 9, 2017

Day 112: I think YOU are AWESOME!!!

There is only one way to avoid criticism.
Do nothing, say nothing, BE NOTHING.
This is such an amazing quote and super true.
Pleasing everyone doesn't lead to an exciting life.
It's also impossible because everyone has different views.
There will ALWAYS be people out there, who don't agree with you.
When you live to please one person, you disappoint another.

My humble your live according to you!

YOUR dreams
YOUR goals
YOUR hobbies
YOUR passions
YOUR ideal
YOUR beliefs

Don't walk over others in the process.
Be kind.
Have a good heart.
Thank people for their opinions BUT don't let them knock you!
Opinions don't change reality.
They are just opinions.

I think YOU are AWESOME!!!

Monday, April 3, 2017

Day 111: Are you a Duck or an Eagle?

Don't quack like a Duck, but soar like an Eagle.
It's the power of choice.
You can be a Duck or an Eagle.
Ducks quack and complain, Eagles soar above the crowd.
Change your attitude.
If you get up in the morning, expecting to have a bad day, you'll rarely disappoint yourself.
Stop complaining!
It's easy if you try.
Ducks are easy to recognize. They think in Duck-like ways. They spend all day in the Duck pond with their little Duck friends.
Their responses sound like quack, quack, quack as they try to convince others that they are right.
The Ducks often tend to quote the rules or policy manual to try to avoid hard questions or as a reason to avoid solving a problem. Ducks are often guilty of the exact same things that they often quack (complain) about.
Ducks have no idea that soaring above them all the time are Eagles.
Eagles are people who have found success and soar above conflict.
Eagles are optimistic and choose a positive attitude.
Eagles are always aware of the 'Ducks' existence and the dangers that looms within the Duck pond.
Ducks can be very sneaky. They have a way of luring others to join the Duck pond.....this includes Eagles once caught in the pond, Eagles will quack along with the Ducks and can often find it difficult to leave. Some are able to leave immediately....others it may take much longer.
But most Eagles will leave the pond eventually and begin soaring the skies again.
But the majority of Ducks are Ducks.
They will never change, even with extensive counseling or training.
Ducks and Eagles can be nearly found in every situation.
You see them in your offices, homes, churches and organizations.
You see them in families and groups of friends.
You'll encounter them as you go run your errands.
The bank, grocery store, dry cleaner, restaurants, etc.
The Ducks will let you know, how difficult their job is and what an inconvenience you are.
Eagles go above and beyond to provide excellent service....even if it's just with their positive attitude and general likability.
Ducks and Eagles are easy to identify.
Look around. I'm sure you can easily identify who belongs in each group.
However, do you know what group YOU belong in?

Wednesday, March 29, 2017

Day 110: Let me give you a piece of my mind....

Our days are happier when we give people a bit of our heart, rather than a piece of our mind.
We will rise just by lifting others.
Speak in such a way, that others love to listen to you.
Listen in such a way, that others love to speak to you.
You know it's easy to play the blame game.
Point your finger at someone else right now, you will notice that 4 of your fingers will point right back at you!
Don't play a victim, get over yourself and snap out of it, because if you don't, the only one you bother with that attitude is YOU!
I became a widow very young and I had no idea how to deal with loss.
I failed miserably at it.
I failed forward.
But the reason I got over it, is because I snapped out of it.
I had to.
A woman who walks in PURPOSE doesn't have to chase PEOPLE or OPPORTUNITIES.
Leadership is really about making OTHERS better as a result of your presence, and making sure that impact lasts in your absence.
Also work hard at your passions and be YOU!
The right people who belong in your life will come find you and stay.
Do your thing!
You are what you DO, not what you SAY!
We still gotta learn things the hard way but don't ever forget to just treat others how you want to be treated.
When we all support each other, incredible things happen.
And at times just be silent, because that's when the answers will come to you.
To Be Continued.......

Tuesday, March 28, 2017

Day 109: FEAR!

Never trust your fears, they don't know your strength.
Our fear reveals what we care about the most.
I decided to just fail forward.
No more what if....for me.
I am going only one way in this life and that is to the top.
If you wanna join me, you are welcome.
If not, that's super cool as well.
I sincerely want to get to know people and build genuine friendships.
Yes on the way of course we all stumble upon some "rotten apples" but that's just life!
We are living in 2017 where all the doors are wide open to pretty much do whatever your heart desires.
Social Media is an incredible easy platform.
For so long I have been "behind the scenes" watching others rise to the top.
Why not ME?
I figured if I'm "hanging out" on Social Media anyways why not make money while "hanging out".
I am going to share my story, because my story is Unique to me.
Nobody has MY STORY and that makes me different.
If I can help 1 person with just sharing my story, that will be a blessing to me.
In life you will get chances at things so great, they scare you senseless, because you have no freaking clue how they are going to turn out, but either you jump that chasm and into the fullness of your potential, or you stay behind in Fear's comfy little lair, where you can from a safe distance, watch your dreams on the other side slip away from you.
The choice is yours.
Fears are stories we tell ourselves.
Stop being afraid of what could go wrong, and start being excited of what could go right.
In the end, we only regret the chances we didn't take, relationships we were afraid to have, and the decisions we waited too long to make.
.....To Be Continued.....

Sunday, March 26, 2017

Day 108: Manifest Your Destiny

Did you know that journaling about your future can radically change the present?
Dreams really do come true, if you write them down as they've already happened.
Expressing gratitude for things we desire takes away our fears and worries about never having them.
There are so many ways to journal.
You can buy a fancy smancy journal and just start writing.
Personally that didn't really work for me.
I needed some more guidance.
I guess I am a slow learner but once I get going I usually keep going.
Slow and steady.
I found the perfect app on my phone called The Five Minute Journal.
It reminds me twice daily to write in the morning and at night.
In the morning you start out by writing down what you are grateful for.
Next your write down what you will do that day to make it a Fabulous day.
You finish by filling out your daily affirmation.
Then at the end of that day you share 3 amazing things that happened that day.
Completing it by saying how you could have made that day even better.
On top of all this you get a daily quote which you can share with others if you feel they need a little sunshine in their day.
Make this a habit and get very specific.
The world as you have created it, is a process of your thinking.
It can not be changed without changing your thinking.
When you are grateful, fear disappears and abundance appears.
Small, Smart Choices + Consistency + Time = Radical Difference.
You are in competition with no one.
You don't have to play the game better than anyone.
You are just simply trying to be a better person than you were yesterday.
Don't forget YOU are the only YOU there is and will ever be.
Don't deny the world it's one and only chance to bask in your brilliance.
......To Be Continued.....

Saturday, March 25, 2017

Day 107: Failing Forward

Through my experience in Network Marketing, I've learned a lot about life, and leadership.
I've made mistakes. I've failed forward. All of the lessons I've learned have refined me and shaped me  into the leader I was created to be. My leadership has grown as I've grown up. Personal and professional growth is one of the greatest gifts this profession has provided me.
In Network Marketing and in life there can be a lot of ego but also a lot of rejection!
Humility is the ability to not be moved by flattery or by criticism.
Remember that confidence and humility are not in conflict with each other.
You can have both at the same time!
Always watch your attitude, don't give energy to a bad attitude.
Be willing to learn, grow, and accept feedback.
Don't compare yourself to others.
When we waste valuable energy comparing ourselves to others, we are overlooking our potential and the opportunity for growth in our own life.
We might be trying to emulate something someone else is doing, and in the meantime missing our own calling because we aren't doing what we are supposed to be doing!
We may have been given a way to do things bigger and better, but perhaps we've missed it as our focus is placed on the wrong things!
We are too distracted to notice the gifts in front of us because we are too busy focusing on what others have been gifted with!
We have to give that up.
Stop struggling, striving, comparing, and competing!
The death of contentment is comparison.
Competition takes you captive.
Focus on YOUR calling!
Exude energy and excitement!
Enthusiasm is a catalyst for success.
It's important that you exude energy and that you are authentic.
Always stay true to yourself!
Keep it real!
....To Be Continued....

Thursday, March 23, 2017

Day 106: Are you growing yourself daily?

Taking time for our personal and professional growth provides nourishment for our souls, and it fuels our minds. It makes us more effective for everyone in our lives.
If I could encourage all of you to implement one thing today, it would be to plan to wake up each day and just as you eat breakfast to fuel your body, begin to feed your mind, too!
You can only go as far as you grow!
I like to spend time each morning devoting attention to my personal and professional growth.
It's the perfect way to power-start my day and to prepare myself for new opportunities.
I like to end each day the same way, so I am thinking and believing positive things before my head hits the pillow.
Therefore I don't start or end my day with chaos, e-mails, TV, text messages, etc.
I feed and fuel myself with daily mediation/prayer, reading personal and professional development materials, and listening to positive and uplifting music.
I even fill in the "empty time" when I drive listening to audio books or free podcasts, making my car a "rolling University."
I listen to things that teach me how to become a better person and more effective leader.
I am extremely intentional about my daily self-programming so I am more effective as a wife, friend, sister, daughter and leader.
I realize that my business can only grow as much as I do.
I used to say things like: "Nobody is joining my Team," or "Everyone is quitting."
Wouldn't you know?
That's exactly what was happening!
Through personal development, I learned that your words are seeds.
Words are capable of bringing a harvest in your life - good or bad.
My words were either going to be fertilizer to my growing dream, or they would poison it.
Personal Development took me on a journey into a deep discovery about the power of my thoughts and words.
The day when I made up my mind and began to change my daily declarations, saying: "I have a fast growing team with eager like minded Gals, I became successful.
I am still a work in progress but I am loving this journey and just embracing it all.
......To Be Continued....

Wednesday, March 22, 2017

Day 105: Get clear on your mission

Focus on how you can serve others and help others throughout their journey.
Even when things get tough, keep going.
Just follow your gut.
What's your mission?
Go above and beyond.
Constantly engage with others.
Be relentless, don't compare yourself with others and keep it simple.
You gotta be consistent.
Don't be pushy but you gotta be assertive.
The journey of an entrepreneur will force us to dig into the depths of who we are,  in order for us to show up and make things happen.
There will be times that we feel super excited and fired up, and there will be times that things feel ridiculously tough and impossible.
This is all part of the process and we need to honor that because there is no way around that.
These tough times are there for a reason.
They help you to fine tune who you are, what you like and what you don't like.
You gotta keep doing what you are doing consistently.
The only way you can go from being down is up.
Last week I had set up and event on my Fit & Fabulous Meet Up Group and would you like to know how many peeps showed up?
Are you sitting down?
And please don't be jelly....
1 Fabulous Gal showed up and yes she is super duper cool but obviously it wasn't my intention to have just 1 gal showing up.
This experience kept things real and yes I was disappointed but I did not throw the towel in.
I kept going because we all Fail Forward and that's just life.
Yes I still made sales, no not from that one fabulous gal but it was just a lesson for me to keep going and always keeping Faith.
.......To Be Continued.....

Saturday, March 18, 2017

Day 104: Embrace the beginning of your Journey....

Throughout my life I was always in a rush.
Growing up in Holland, I was watching Dallas, Dynasty and Beverly Hills 90210 and I wanted to live  in America and be married to an All American blue eyed handsome fellow like PRONTO!
This didn't happen overnight and looking back I wish I embraced the journey a bit more and enjoyed every minute of the process to making that dream come true.
Yes I did enjoy but I also remember the lonely nights that I cried myself to sleep when I was single.
Dating was hard and fun at times.
You gotta weed out the frogs until you meet your prince.
This goes for everything else in life as well.
I studied and graduated with a Masters in Arabic and now I am a Corporate Flight Attendant and I sell Make-Up and Cosmetics through YOUNIQUE.
My point is: "never say never!"
Keep growing and every beginning is hard and maybe your intentions were different but just go with the flow.
I've experienced loss up close and personal.
I learned a lot from this experience.
I was angry, bitter and negative for a while and played the blame game and felt like a victim.
Eventually there was no other way than snapping out of that mindset and moving on.
Treat people like you want to be treated.
Pay attention to what they say and need.
Don't worry, if you help enough others, your needs will get answered as well.
Surround yourself with like minded people.
Don't apologize for not making time for people who pull you down.
Life is short and as beautiful as you make it yourself.
You will fall, but dust yourself off, and get back up and keep trucking.
Slow and steady.
Don't look back because you are not going backwards but always forward.
Enjoy the ride!
To Be Continued.....

Thursday, March 16, 2017

Day 103: Your inner weirdo

First off, what is a weirdo?
According to the Urban Dictionary a weirdo is a person who is considered strange to other people.
This person may do strange things, so this person can be considered a "weirdo"...
I admit that my level of weirdness is above the national average, but I'm comfortable with that.
I rather be weird than boring.
Why fit in when you were born to stand out? (by Dr. Seuss)
As entrepreneurs we need to learn how to embrace the fact that we are all "weird" for doing what we do.
In other words, we are all total weirdo's.
Most "normal" people wouldn't put up with all that it takes to actually build a successful business.
All the rejection, failure, self doubt, hard work, and loneliness when you're first starting out.
Don't get discouraged when all these "normal people" tell you no, or don't see what you see.
It's all a part of the process.
Just start celebrating your "inner weirdo" and get out there, and find other weirdo's just like yourself  to go out and build a freaking empire. 
It only takes a few....
The only thing standing between you and greatness is YOU!
Don't worry about that you might annoy your friends/family with all your posts on social media.
They have the luxury of unfollowing your posts and/or just scrolling past with some eye-rolling.
A lot of times your posts will be ignored.
Or you will just get a few likes/comments.
But you gotta push through that time and keep posting and being consistent and of course you gotta post value to others.
Make sure to put your ego aside, because it's not just about you anymore but it is about finding people who would love your products and actually get use out of them.
Also you gotta keep looking for people just like you, who would be great on your team.
You will find YOUR audience of people who want to see what you have to offer.
And your TRUE friends will stick with you and support you in any way, shape or form.
To Be Continued....

Tuesday, March 14, 2017

Day 102: Vulnerable

The definition of Vulnerable: 1) Capable of being physically or emotionally wounded.
2) open to attack or damage: assailable vulnerable to criticism.

Lately I've been feeling a bit vulnerable or even paranoid at times.
Because I open up my life on social media for all to watch/judge/criticize.
I always say to myself, I got nothing to hide, no secrets here.
And I am a big believer of being real and treating people how you want to be treated.
I love it when people are real with me.
Don't beat around the bush.
Tell me what you want and let's not waste time on focusing on what you don't want.
So many people tell me lately, oh I wish I could be more like you and just open up but I am shy or I am scared.
But don't you think, that maybe I am scared as well?
But I decided to step out of my comfort zone and out of my sheltered life of hiding.
Why do people just watch others open up and share with the world?
Those people are just wasting their own precious time.
If they decided to stop watching others and getting into action themselves, 1 year from now, they would have success of their own.
The only thing standing between greatness and you is YOU!
Free yourself to just BE YOURSELF!
If you are in Network Marketing aka Multi Level Marketing (MLM), it's called NetWORKmarketing,  not NetSLACKERmarketing.
When you set out to achieve something BIG, there will be FEAR, there will be SELF DOUBT!
If you are not feeling this, you are Super Human!!
Stick with it...push on.
Everything worth having, is worth working for, and the best things in life don't come easy.
Are you Flight or Fight?
Every single person either runs or fights through when things get hard.
Something I have experienced is that no matter which you are, you have the capability  to change it.
Most of us are runners (including myself).
Until I changed my mindset and realized I could fight for anything I believed in....including myself.
.....To Be Continued.....

Monday, March 13, 2017

Day 101: Photoshoot

The location of the photoshoot was at a beautiful home in Oceanside CA.
The crew was all female.
I had face-timed with my friend Marcy the  photographer earlier that morning and she saw Dobby my furry baby and had given me permission to bring him.
My friend and stylist Lyndell was already on location when I arrived.
I had brought some snacks for all of us and a bottle of bubbly.
Marcy broke out her bottle of bubbly first and we got to work.
We had music playing and Lyndell and I spread out all the outfits we had brought.
Marcy was setting up the lights and back drops.
The whole afternoon (we started around 2pm), flew by.
We shared lots of stories and lots of laughs.
Also I love the fact that we all worked really well together.
For one shot, Lyndell and I even swapped clothes.
Thankfully as Marcy, the photographer shot pix with her camera, Lyndell shot pix with my I-phone and her I-phone.
So we had pix instantly to look at.
Even Dobby (my furry baby) made it onto the pix.
After the shoot, Marcy went to dinner with her hubby and Lyndell and I stopped for coffee on our way home.
While having coffee I copied the pix she took on her I-phone to my phone, so she didn't have to go through that trouble herself.
What a fun afternoon that was!
The photoshoot was really just practice for the 3 of us, to see what works and what doesn't.
It's nice to just get creative without any pressure of paying clients.
Hopefully when Marcy edits and develops the pix, she will share them with me, without charging me.
But even if there is a charge, I'm very pleased with the existing I-phone pix already.
...To Be Continued....

Wednesday, March 8, 2017


I always thought Meditation was just for "whackadoodles."
But I was mistaken big time!
Finally I found an app called the 10% happier app on my phone through the app store.
This app is initiated by Dan Harris from Good Morning America and it's specifically designed for skeptics like me and many others.
It is so true that the best ideas come to you in silence.
When we stop running and we take time to sit still and just pause, miracles happen.
Also the fact that guided mediations are so helpful with just our daily routine and our relationships/friendships.
I was always very busy with pretty much doing nothing.
Kind of like running around with my head cut off.
But not much productivity came out of it.
I started looking into time management techniques and so many different ways to get more useful things done.
I finally got to the bottom of my lifelong dilemma.
Meditation, especially when it's done in the morning after waking up, sets the pace for the day.
It really centers you and makes you less of a jerk/biotch.
Because it makes you reflect and go deeper within.
Before losing your cool, it makes you count to 10.
It makes you think twice before you verbally attack another person.
If another can easily anger you, it is because you are off balance with yourself.
We must create sacred time for ourselves to access the deepest, highest, wisest parts of ourselves.
When you can't control what's happening, challenge yourself to control the way you respond to what's happening. That's where your power is!
At some point you just have to let go of what you thought should happen and live in what's happening.
Instead of thinking about solving your whole life, you just think about adding additional good things.
One at a time. Just let your pile of good things grow.
Go with the flow!
To Be Continued.....

Tuesday, March 7, 2017

Day 99: Fear

Are you a Fighter or a Runner?
I was a runner for the longest time.
I was watching others from the comfort of my own home.
I was just a voyeur.
Gosh I wasted so much precious time by doing that.
Once I got off my lazy ass, and got busy myself, things started to flow.
Yes I was, and I am scared of criticism, I am only human!
But now I do realize that once you start facing your fears, miracles happen.
Not overnight though, and I am slightly obsessed with instant gratification.
You gotta want it bad enough and you gotta love it!
But I have to admit that my passion was never what I am sharing/selling right now.
I was never a make up Gal!
I only use mascara and sometimes lipstick.
But now I opened my eyes to the mission behind what I am sharing/selling.
The mission is to Empower others! 
To uplift and validate and ultimately build self-esteem in women around the world.
Try posting a selfie without make up right now.
That takes guts!
The real you is underneath your make up, but the key is to, find that special make up Younique-ly designed for you.
You gotta bring out your own Younique style.
Trust me you will be surprised how many others will relate to you and want to join your tribe.
Don't be scared to open up.
Just take baby steps and break down for you what you really want to pursue in this lifetime.
Fear is only temporary.
Regret lasts forever!
.....To Be Continued......

Monday, March 6, 2017

Day 98: Check Yourself!

First off nobody is better than anyone else.
We are all wanted on this planet.
There is room for everybody.
Think about the luck we have already had by making it here to this planet.
Your mom and dad had to be with each other at an exact time and I'm sure you know the story about the birds and the bees.
So, now we are all here let's just try to get along and make the best of it.
Start being grateful of the little things because believe it or not, you will create more of that by doing so.
Focus on being positive and happy.
Others like to be around positive and happy people.
Don't you?
Help others throughout the day, like open the door for an other person.
Pull out a chair.
A smile goes a long way.
You don't know what other people have been through.
Here is a little example, when my late husband died and I walked out of the hospital being alone for the first time I felt so intensely sad and it was very weird for me to see others laughing and singing and smiling while I was so miserable.
I kind of wanted for all the other people out on the street who crossed my path to be as miserable as I was, because misery needs company.
It took me a while to realize that what had happened to me wasn't  written on my forehead and if you want to dig deeper it didn't really happen to me, because I was still alive but my late husband was dead.
I had to grieve and go through the stages but after all this, I had to get back up and wipe myself off and get back into the game of life.
....To Be Continued....

Sunday, March 5, 2017

Day 97: Where energy goes, energy flows

Have you ever noticed that after you buy a new car, all of a sudden you see that same car everywhere?
Have you ever noticed that when you complain a lot, all of a sudden you see people around you complaining as well?
This is the case with everything.
When people complain about the negativity in the world and on social media, it means that they gotta clean up their own world first.
You gotta look within, before you play the "blame game," before you point fingers.
A lot of people tend to focus on others.
But out of my own experience I have learned that is such a waste of your precious time.
And time is one of the only things we can not buy.
We gotta stop dwelling on the past and we gotta grow and learn and fail forward.
I was skyping with my father in Holland and he was complaining about feeling lonely.
Now this is not the first time that I hear this, so again I came up with solutions.
Of course my father who is 86 years young, did not want to hear my solutions.
He likes to be the victim and have a pitty party.
Of course I love my father more than life itself and always hear him out but today I really didn't want his negative energy to rub of on me, so I told him to call my mother instead.
Because he complains about my mother, asking me why she left him after 40 years of marriage.
I told him, that has nothing to do with me and they should really sort that out together.
I can not talk for my mother.
In life sometimes it is better to step away from negativity and diffuse the situation with better solutions.
I have noticed that leaders always find solutions.
If there is a problem, there is a solution and if not, you direct this  to others who will have a solution.
The bottomline is, you gotta choose and pick your battles wisely.
There are people on this planet who are not ready and/or willing to help themselves.
You can guide them and show them the way, but you CAN NOT do it for them.
......To Be Continued.....

Saturday, March 4, 2017

Day 96: I can't believe this is my life!

Have you ever had this thought?
Have you ever asked yourself; "is this really my life?"
I always wondered and was always envious of people who raved about their passions.
I never really knew what my passions were.
Yeah I knew that hiking was a big passion of mine, but getting lost in nature unfortunately doesn't pay the bills.
I was well aware of the fact that I enjoyed hanging out on Facebook, Instagram and Pinterest.
But again that doesn't pay the bills.
For so long, I wasted so much time following other successful Gals.
Then one day, my darling hubby John said to me: "You know Anna, it's all fine and dandy that you got so many friends & followers on social media but having all these friends & followers don't pay the bills.
A lightbulb went on in my head (I know, I know I'm a Blonde and maybe it took me a bit longer than the average bear).
I realized that I could combine all my passions together and make money that way.
I searched and searched and searched some more, until I found the right company for me.
As you know by now, I am a European Gal and I definitely wanted to join an International company with a very big powerful mission.
Personally I have always struggled with a lack of confidence.
I have read pretty much every personal development book out there.
Every day I still read and train my brain.
I have to stay consistent with my daily tasks.
But I saw a light at the end of the tunnel.
I realized I am Unique just by being me.
The only one who has my fingerprint is me.
So........drumroll.....I joined YOUNIQUE.
By just being my YOUnique self, I have made lots of Gals more confident with incredible make up and cosmetics.
At the same time this company has helped me with my confidence and I've made some fabulous Gal Pals and still meeting and making more lifelong friends.
......To Be Continued.....

Friday, March 3, 2017

Day 95: This is where I went wrong.

So, I have tried 2 MLM's (Network Marketing Companies) before.
I know, I know there is no trying but simply doing.
I think I get it now, why I wasn't successful at it.
Because I made the assumption that when I just posted about the products a little bit people would join me.
But now I know you gotta keep showing up consistently.
Meaning you gotta post daily several times.
You gotta open up about your life and dreams and goals.
You gotta share, share, share.
Share why you picked your company.
Why you love the products.
Show pix with you using the products.
Talk about how great you feel because of your products.
And I think this is where I went wrong, I assumed people would contact me to buy and/or join me but no I gotta straight out ask.
And this is where I felt before like selling, but now I know that if I seriously think they would benefit from the products and/or joining the company, I am actually doing them a favor.
So then it's not selling but helping others.
You see everything is about your mindset.
Because think about it, at the end of the day, we all sell something!
We sell ourselves in a way, because we want to be liked, loved.
We sell a movie we just saw or a great restaurant we just ate at.
So that's why in most Network Marketing Companies they always say; "we don't sell, we share!
Everything in life is all about presentation and how you deliver things and how you package it.
If you genuinely come from a good place, this will shine through.
Also while you are working on bettering your own life, you gotta share what works for you, so others can do the same.
It's funny because as long as you communicate and express yourself, others will reciprocate.
Sometimes I make the wrong assumption by assuming that others can read my mind.
But obviously others can't read your mind, so you gotta open up and speak up!
Have fun communicating!
....To Be Continued....

Thursday, March 2, 2017

Day 94: Separate Business page Yah or Nah....

Okay the question of the day is: "should you  have a separate business page on Facebook?
Here is my personal opinion.
I have found that having another page is just creating more work and having to do "another chore".
These days we all hammer on being "authentic" and "keeping it real" and just "Be You".
So why can't I just be ME on my one and only personal page?
Okay Yes I probably will start to annoy people with my new biz but you know what? That's me and that's me being REAL.
I think it's so hypocritical, that when someone just joins an MLM (network marketing company), they feel they gotta keep it on "the down low "until they start making money with it.
It's almost like we are embarrassed of the beginning stages.
Nobody comes out of the gate as a winner!
We all have to actually work for it.
It's called netWORKmarketing not netSLACKERmarketing.
And the minute someone is successful with their biz they shout it of the roof tops and their "up line" "mentor" "coach"  raves about their accomplishments and show everybody that they just "earned" a car, a bonus, a higher rank, etc.
Now people will start to pay attention!
Because now everybody thinks they can do the same.
They want to 'earn' the car 'the bonus' the higher rank'.
But they don't want to work for it and they assume they don't have to,  because they never saw or heard about all the hard work.
I think if we all , network marketers, break it down a bit more and keep it real, we will reach even more people.
So today I will do a Facebook Live and I will delete my separate biz pages and I will just be totally transparent about everything.
Like it or not!
Either you are with me or against me.
Either way it's all fine with me.
Peace out!

Wednesday, March 1, 2017

Day 93: Just let go and have fun!

It's funny that when I first started a Meet Up Group if was like ....crickets...silence, nobody signed up, so I gave up and figured okay that's just not for me.
But then a few months later I started another Meet Up Group just without any expectations and that group grew and blossomed rapidly.
I really think that my first group was created out of a scarcity mindset and I was kind of recruiting clients for my biz.
But my second time around I was looking for like minded Gals to build genuine lifelong friendships with.
It's interesting to me that at the end of the day we all just want to be liked and to make friends.
We all preferably want to meet Besties daily and be best friends with everyone we meet.
Unfortunately we don't live in a fairytale but we can certainly create our own version of our own fairytale.
After a lot of trial and error, I know what kind of gals I'm looking for in my life.
But I also realized that in order for me to attract this gals I had to become the person I want to attract.
Because the saying is true, like minded people attract like minded people.
You gotta grow and be eager to learn and better yourself daily.
You gotta be a best friend to others.
You gotta be sincere and mindful of others feelings and needs.
I started my Fit & Fabulous Meet Up group March 2016 and now almost a year later we grew into 400 and counting Fit & Fab Gals.
I've made some incredible besties through my group.
My mission is really to inspire others and to show that even after loss, heartache, trauma, divorce etc there is a wonderful life waiting to be lived.
Yes we all gotta slow down and give into the grieve and go through the stages of healing.
But we don't have to do that alone and we will find happiness again.
Some women lack confidence, and I was one of them.
But now after realizing that I am good enough and I matter this changed and I am growing into the woman I always wanted to be.
You know what the secret is?
Just be you and don't apologize for being you.
Embrace it and show the world your true colors.
Your power is just being YOU!

Tuesday, February 28, 2017

Transparency: Day 92: How to make friends

Transparency: Day 92: How to make friends: You know I am time after time surprised by the fact,  that people tell me how hard they find it to make friends. I really never experienced...

Day 92: How to make friends

You know I am time after time surprised by the fact,  that people tell me how hard they find it to make friends.
I really never experienced that issue.
I have traveled and lived all over the world, and found it very easy to find ways to meet and make new friends.
You can call me a professional friend collector hahaha.
I love meeting new people and making new friends.
I have noticed early on in life, that the simple solution to make new friends is to just listen and genuinely care about the other person.
Make eye contact, ask questions, pay attention, repeat what they say, to show them that you are really paying attention.
Throw your own agenda out the window.
Your time in the spot light will come.
Have patience.
Always try to find a solution to problems.
Be a concierge, meaning be a valuable resource to others.
Make others smile and don't let them dwell in their own negativity.
There are a lot of energy suckers out there.
You know what I mean, the people who like to play victim and lead with negativity and like to dwell in their own sorrows.
Show them the light at the end of the tunnel.
Be relatable.
Give them little snippets of your personal story.
Be real and authentic.
Throw your filter out the window.
If you open up, they will open up.
Action, reaction.
People can smell honesty a mile away.
Trust me, the minute you open up about your story, the whole world will open up to you!
Try it out and get back to me.
To be continued......

Monday, February 27, 2017

Day 91: I'm Baaaaaaaaack!!!

So, I have been MIA (Missing in action) for like a week.
I started my own home biz last week Saturday February 18,  2017 with Younique.
Younique is a network marketing company which started in Utah (USA) by a brother and sister in 2012 and pretty much went viral 2014 all over the world.
Their mission is to uplift, empower, and validate women across the globe.
Their goal is to provide healthy, clean, and pure cosmetics.
I don't know about you, but personally I don't know any woman who has never used make-up or who will never use make up again.
I think selling make up is the easiest sell ever.
Yes we can and will survive without  make up but the reality is, nobody wants to or has to.
So far I have sold a lot of make up and I am loving the process.
Make up makes people feel confident, empowered and strong.
I have never ever found a company with so many fun, confident and genuine women.
I love the fact that this company promotes your own Younique-ness.
Everybody is unique.
Just be Yourself because there is only one of you.
Nobody has the same finger print as you.
No one is YOU and that is your power!
And why would you want to fit in, if you were born to stand out.
Personally I like flaws, because they make people interesting.
And you know being different isn't a bad thing.
It means you are brave enough to be yourself.
Gosh, so far I've made some amazing genuine life long friends and I have been on cloud 9.
Thankfully my hubby supports me a 100% with anything I set my mind to.
Every day is such a blessing to be alive and I love sharing my happiness & excitement with others.
I have noticed first hand that when you feel beautiful you act beautiful towards others and the whole world becomes much more of a happy place to be.
To Be Continued......

Monday, February 20, 2017

Day 90: Hit the ground running

So, like most people in the world these days, I like to hang out with my face in the phone and computer on Social Media.
I am a real social butterfly and love chatting with friends and seeing what they are doing through Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, Pinterest et.
It is almost like watching a reality movie.
When people tell me they are not on any social media platform, I always say: "Wow, I'm impressed with your willpower and you actually got a life"
But at the same time I feel bad for them because I feel they are missing out.
I really get enjoyment out of Social Media.
I get jobs through social media.
Corporate Flight Attendant jobs and John (my darling hubby) found me a part time gig as a Boutique Manager.
I made some amazing new friends through social media.
I learn daily from social media.
From other people's journey and quotes and stories.
John is also a lot on his phone and he loves to play a game on his phone called "words with friends"
And he loves to play his playstation all day and every day or he golfs.
He is a Freelance Corporate pilot but he doesn't fly a lot.
One day John said: "you know, you have so many friends on social media (3000 on Facebook) and they all follow what you do (not all of them of course), and they send you compliments on how you are motivational and inspirational but all these compliments don't pay the bills.
So I decided to find a job where I can use Social Media and make a wealthy living of it.
We all know that if you don't work hard nothing happens.
So I did a long time research looking for the perfect opportunity.
And.....drumroll...I found it!!
I am now a legit GIRLBOSS!!!
Working from home on the couch, cozy under my fluffy blanket, in front of the fireplace.
I started saturday February 18, 2017 and have already moved to the next rank, got a promotion because I sold to 5 different friends.
.......To Be Continued....

Wednesday, February 15, 2017

Day 89: Valentine's Day

I remember the days when I was single and especially when I became a widow after a successful marriage. 
All I wanted growing up was being married to my best friend and everything else would fall into place.
It wasn't easy to find my "perfect match".
I had to kiss a lot of frogs and weed out the crazy ones.
Seriously it had become a hobby to me being on dating websites.
When I met my dear hubby, on our first date he sat me down and asked me to remove all my online dating accounts and he did the same of course.
Now we are in our third year of knowing each other and I seriously love him more daily.
Like every relationship/marriage we have our ups and downs but we work through it and come out even stronger.
Yesterday was Valentine's day and I remember when I was single I was miserable especially when I looked on social media.
It was picture after picture of lovey dovey couples rubbing into my face what a loser I was that I was alone.
Now I know that I wasn't a loser but it was just another phase in my life.
It sounds so cliche but life really is a journey and you gotta be able to survive the tough times in order to fully enjoy the good times.
I always thought that I could just cruise through life without obstacles but we all gotta go through the shitty times.
Yesterday on Valentine's day I had a hard time posting my lovey dovey pix with my hubby on social media because I didn't want to brag and/or rub it in.
But my hubby shared some wise words and said: "honey don't apologize for being happy, you gotta be yourself and share what makes you happy." "you are not selfish for being happy".
He is so right. 
I don't have to apologize for being happy because I know I paid the price and even if I didn't, I gotta  stay true to myself.

Monday, February 13, 2017

Day 88: Honesty

Okay Today marks my first day participating in The 21 Day Fix Challenge aka Show Yourself Some Love Challenge.
So, when I want to show myself some love I don't put restrictions on myself but kind of go with the flow.
My perfect morning is waking up without alarm clock usually around 6:30am and letting the dog out and feeding the furry babes (cat & dog).
Then I'm making myself my yummy strawberry carnation instant breakfast, 1 coffee and 1 glass with a lemon and a clementine.
After this prep work I snuggle up on the couch under a blanket and start meditating through my 10% happier app on my iPhone.
When this is done (usually takes 20 min),  I work on sharing a post on social media.
This post must have a picture that others can relate to and a valuable story.
You know what they say: "a picture speaks a thousand words".
After my post, I feel a sense of relief and continue working down my "check list"
I journal through my Five Minute Journal on my iPhone.
Then when that's done I focus on my daily blog, and what I would like to talk about that day.
It always has to be something useful to others and it has to be transparent and honest.
This morning I stepped on the scale and saw that my weight went from 146lbs to 148lbs and I'm 5'9.
Thankfully I am starting my in-home work outs today for the next 21 days.
I am waiting for my dear hubby to wake up so he can take my measurements and I can get going.
I am certainly not a big fan of in home work outs because the weather is so flawless and super duper gorgeous here in sunny California that I rather work out outside.
But I will go on my daily hike as well, so I figure I can do both easily.
I'll let you know how the first work out goes,  tomorrow.
I gotta admit that I am looking forward to losing some weight and toning up.
I used to weigh 130lbs but this was a couple years ago when I had just become a widow.
My diet was just not eating and being miserable.
This time around I would like to get to my "perfect" weight the healthy way.
To Be Continued.....

Sunday, February 12, 2017

Day 87: 21 Day Fix Challenge

Okay, let me break this down.
The 21 day fix is a work out program through Team Beach Body.
Team Beach Body is a Network Marketing Company aka a Multi Level Marketing company (MLM).
I have been following the progress of this company and there are more than 400.000 coaches representing this company.
We all know that without our health we can not create wealth let alone anything else for that matter.
I have always been slightly obsessed with health and fitness because lets be honest, have you ever met anyone in your life who doesn't want to be healthy? or who doesn't want to lose or gain a few pounds, or tone/bulk up?
Growing up my parents always went for long walks hand in hand and they always got back home so happy and rejuvenated.
Just a walk in nature gets the endorphins going and clears your mind.
I have never met anyone who doesn't feel better after a walk/hike/run/work out.
Have you?
My late husband used to be obese and when I met him he had just undergone a drastic surgery called gastric bypass, he was part of a free study with 3 other people in NY at the Presbyterian Hospital.
All these people are dead today.
They all signed a waiver.
It was important enough for them to sign their life away. 
My late husband needed plastic surgery afterwards and still had excess skin.
He was in pain a lot.
Every time when he swallowed something too big it got stuck and he had to puke in order to get it out.
He suffered from a lot of seizures due to all this damage that he had already done to his body.
When you are obese you put too much pressure on your vital organs, so eventually your heart slows down till it just stops.
Now he is gone and both his children are obese and the journey continues for them.
This is why I am joining The Team Beach Body coaches.
Join me!
Lets end the obesity in the world and bring awareness to healthy and happy living!

Saturday, February 11, 2017

Corporate Flight Attendant Life

Yesterday I got called by a pilot (he got my info through another Corporate Flight Attendant).
She can't really fly as much anymore because she just became a new mommy.
The pilot asked me if I was available for a next day flying trip.
First I was like, because my hubby surprised me last minute with a little weekend get away.
But of course I said, yes I am available and thank you for reaching out to me.
Yesterday a little bit later I got a text that due to a maintenance issue with the plane the trip would probably get cancelled.
But he asked me to be on standby because they were busy fixing the issue.
This morning I got ready and waited till further notice.
The pilot was so efficient and kept me posted all morning.
Then he said, okay we are going on the trip.
A day trip.
From Van Nuys to New Mexico, picking up 12 passengers and flying back.
I was nervous but super excited as well.
I drove half way to the airport to meet up with the pilots and drove with them to the airport.
Half way to the airport we got news that the trip was cancelled by the passengers.
So, I still got paid and they dropped me off so I could uber back to my car while they still had to go to the airport to start the engine and see if the plane was okay now.
All and all it was nice meeting the pilots and I already knew them from my hubby and father in law because they had all worked together before.
I will be their next flight attendant for their next trip for sure and they were super nice guys.
Not too shabby that I still got paid.
Days like this are so amazing and it makes me feel so grateful for my in-laws who paid for all my training etc.
Gosh I want to shout it out from the rooftop how lucky and happy and grateful and appreciative I am.
Thank you God for this wonderful life and all the opportunities and love I receive always.
To Be Continued.....

Friday, February 10, 2017

Day 85: Leaders

Leader = an individual with the capacity to consistently succeed in a given condition and be viewed as meeting the expectations of an organization or society.
"Leaders are recognized by their capacity for caring for others, clear communication, and a commitment to persist."
So, one of my girlfriends the other day thanked me for being a great leader and setting up and organizing my meet up group The Fit & Fabulous ladies.
I never really saw myself as a leader but I would like to be.
I'm reading a lot on leadership daily and I am practicing my skills daily.
I know there are different kind of leaders.
I just asked my hubby while I'm writing this blog, if he sees me as a leader and he said no.
I said: "why not?" he said, because you are too nice.
Yeah I do like the fact that my hubby and others say I am nice.
That's also what I said to my friend who sees me as a leader.
She said the same thing what I always thought.
There are different kind of leaders.
There are leaders who lead and pull people along with them.
There are also leaders who lead people by walking behind them and helping them up.
The most powerful leadership tool you have is your own personal example.
And make sure to go the extra mile because nobody else will.
Leaders think and talk about the solutions.
Followers think and talk about the problems.
Life is not a competition, life is about helping and inspiring others, so we can each reach our potential.
And if you hire people just because you want them to do a job, they will just work for your money.
But if you hire people who believe what you believe, they will work for you with blood, sweat and tears.
Always staying positive even in a negative situation is also key.
This is not naive, but this is leadership.
And one positive thought in the morning can change your entire day.
To Be Continued.......

Thursday, February 9, 2017

Day 84: If you want something you've never had.... have to do something you've never done.
This means doing some sort of exercise daily for at least half an hour, drinking a healthy shake (meal replacement) to fuel your body and watching/monitoring your food intake.
You never ever have to count calories if you just eat the right foods.
Consistency is key always.
Of course we are all human and we will fall of the boat at times, but get back on the boat and just continue on.
This will become a routine eventually, hang in there.
It will be a routine, a habit, like taking a shower daily and brushing your teeth.
You won't go long without these habits, right?
Now step up your game and look for accountability on social media and shout it from the roof tops what are you  gonna accomplish?
If you put your 'money' where your mouth is, you will get there even faster.
If you really want to be successful, you have to share your journey honestly and genuinely on a consistent basis.
And if you think you CAN do something or you CAN'T, either way you are right!
It's all about your mindset.
You gotta believe in yourself!

You want results, but you are not willing to train.
You want success, but you are not willing to work.
You want to learn, but you are not willing to read.

Now evaluate.
Do you actually want it?
Don't take the action = don't get the results.
You won't see change if you don't make changes.
The change starts with YOU!

Wednesday, February 8, 2017

Day 83: Winning

Winning = gaining, resulting in, or relating to victory in a contest or competition.

So, I received a call from my dentist's office and immediately I assumed, oh they want money.
But no that wasn't the case.
The assistant called  to tell me that I had won the contest at the Dental office.
I was like, what?!
I don't think I've ever won anything in my life.
So, needless to say I'm super duper stoked!
Okay, you are asking, what did I win?
I won a brand new bleaching tray after getting impressions done of course and a bleaching kit.
You know this is not a cheap thing.
It's pricey to get your teeth professionally whitened.
Gosh I'm on cloud 9!
This makes me think that I might be on a winning streak.
You think 2017 will be my winning year?
Yes Yes Yes!
I am gonna go BIG this year and take risks.
February 2018 my hubby and I will be living in our dream house by the beach and the golf course.
Mark my words.
Dream big or go home!
What are your dreams?
Life is not worth living, if you are not willing to dream.
Of course we also gotta keep it realistic.
But I am Dutch, so no worries about not keeping it real.
The Dutch are as level headed as they come.
"You were born to win, but to be a winner, you must plan to win, and expect to win."
Winners focus on winning. 
Losers focus on winners.
Today's Forecast: 100% chance of winning
.....To Be Continued....

Tuesday, February 7, 2017

Day 82: Childhood

The other day while I was hiking with one of my fit & fab meet up group friends, she asked me how my childhood was.
My heart skipped a beat with joy because I just love that question, and who doesn't like to talk about themselves?
My childhood was flawless, sheltered, nurtured, safe, loved and just so fun and joyful.
Yes this makes me a very lucky gal, I do realize that and appreciate it and am super grateful for that fact.
My mother couldn't have been more perfect and still is to this day.
She made me feel special, and loved, and wanted, and just super lucky.
My mother hugged me so much and so tight that at times I told her: "mom you are squeezing me so tight, it hurts."
Growing up in a beautiful home overlooking the woods, maybe this is where my obsession with nature stems from.
My parents went on a lot of walks together hand in hand.
This became my dream, to find a man to go on long walks with.
I remember not liking the walks I had to join them on.
But overtime I learned to love these walks.
Also I was always allowed and encouraged to bring as many friends home from school as I wanted.
Everybody was welcome.
The house was always clean and smelled good with lots of yummy foods.
Music was playing and we danced as a family a lot and laughed a lot.
I think I inherited my fathers dry humor.
My father was working a lot but he took my sister and I shopping and for car rides a lot.
He always made me feel better when I was sick just by putting his big hand on my fore head when I had a head ache or on my upset tummy, if I had a tummy ache.
I really believe that your upbringing is the foundation you need in order to build a strong character.
Due to my solid upbringing I was able to survive the death of my late husband.
....To be continued....

Monday, February 6, 2017

Day 81: If you think you can do a thing or think you can't, you are right.

Either way you are right.
You gotta believe in yourself.
Because nobody else will if you don't.
Some people say: "You gotta fake it before you make it"
I've never had that talent.
I always shout it from the rooftops that I'm bad at something and/or that it's my first time doing something.
But you know what? It's never too late to change your ways.
Today I joined a challenge group on Facebook and the organizer asked every participant to record a video and share that in the group.
Oh gosh I was sweating and wanted to run the other way but I did it and I'm super proud of myself.
Lately I have been sticking to my daily healthy routines and so far loving it.
What are your fears?
What gets you out of your comfort zone?
I am gonna push myself to new heights and I can't wait.
Every permanent change has to go slow and steady, so that's exactly what I plan on doing.
So far my plans are to stick to my daily meditations, journaling, listening to self development audio books, working out and helping others on their journey to a dream life
This time I will go all the way and reach for the moon.
I will lose 15lbs in 21 days.
I will drink Shakeology every day.
Competitiveness is something I never had but lately I am feeling this grow in me and I kind of like it.
Also lately my confidence has been rising.
By sharing my life journey on social media that has been extremely helpful.
I will continue sharing and adding value to other peoples lives.
Today was a good day.
Hairmodeling in the morning, running errands and in between shooting some live videos, made for a pretty great day.
Spinning for an hour at home made me feel so grateful because it was raining all day, so no outside exercise option.
To Be Continued.....

Sunday, February 5, 2017

Breaking it down

Breaking it down = an act of dumbing down a sentence for someone with less knowledge than yourself. Making your words sound less smart, for someone else to understand.
Example: Girl; 'That sounds extravagant, and has me flabbergasted.'
other girl: Umm what?
Girl: *sigh* That's totally cool, I'm all like WOW!
other girl: Oh, thanks for breaking it down.

When I moved to America from Holland I wasn't used to speaking English daily.
Yes, I had English classes in school but as you know, when you don't practice, you don't really learn.
Also I had worked for the airlines and at times had to converse in English but again that was never to the extend of my complete life story but just kind of conversational English about where to go and simple plane conversation.
So I started reading a lot of English books, starting with romance novels by Danielle Steele.
Now I am slightly obsessed with religious books and self development books.
That's pretty much all I read these days.
They are feel good books.
And who doesn't want to feel good?
A few years ago I started to study everything what has to do with network marketing aka multi level marketing.
Network Marketing aka Multi level marketing means when you break it down:

1) You find a product/service you are passionate about.
2) You do lots and lots of research (take your time with this)
3) You start being a customer without joining just yet. (make sure you buy from someone on the top at this company or someone you relate to and who is going places).
4) You join one of the highest earners within this MLM and/or someone who you relate to and genuinely like.
5) Now you just start sharing with others on social media but you have to make sure that you are genuine, sincere and super duper truthful and vulnerable.
6) Don't quit!
7) Break it down to others.
8) Keep it Simple!

......To Be Continued....

Saturday, February 4, 2017

Day 79: Popularity

In sociology, the popularity of a person, idea, item or other concept can be defined in terms of liking, attraction, dominance and superiority.
With respect to interpersonal popularity, there are two primary divisions: perceived and sociometric.
Popularity has to do with being the middle point of a group and having influence on it.
It's pretty much the state or condition of being liked, admired, or supported by many people.
In my humble opinion I believe, that the less a person talks, the more people think about their words.
Also the size of your audience doesn't matter as long as you stay humble and true to yourself.
Don't ever imitate or copy what is popular for acceptance but practice being authentic.
Look like Yourself!
Act like Yourself!
Think like Yourself!
Work IT!
You are unique, there is only one just like you.
You have your own unique fingerprint.
Always worry about loving yourself, instead of loving the idea of other people loving you.
In life we always want to be liked but the number of "followers" you have does not make you better than anyone else.
Hitler had millions of "followers"
Jesus had 12 "followers."
As we grow up, we realize it becomes less important to have a ton of friends, and more important to have real ones.
On social media it's a competition about who has the most friends, the most comments, the most likes.
But at the end of the day, what matters is that you give value to others and help them and make them happy.
As long as you help others, you will reap the benefits of it.
Don't worry if others don't reciprocate just yet.
It's only a matter of time before this turns around.
To Be Continued.......

Friday, February 3, 2017

Day 78: Dendrophile

This is someone who loves trees, forests.
Yesterday one of my girlfriends on Facebook posted a question on her wall, asking her friends to post the 9th picture from their phone as a fun thread to get people together and communicating.
So I went through my phone and posted a selfie of mine kissing a tree.
She responded by saying: "Anna I figured you would post a picture of you in nature."
That's when I realized yes I am super happy in nature and as long as I have the daily opportunity to do so, I'm happy.
This also made me look up the definition of a Tree Hugger.
A Tree Hugger is a term for environmentalists.
An environmentalist broadly supports the goals of the environmental movement, a political and ethical movement that seeks to improve and protect the quality of the natural environment through changes to environmentally harmful human activities. An environmentalist is engaged in or believes in the philosophy of environmentalism.
Environmentalists are sometimes referred to using informal or derogatory terms such as "greenie" and "tree-hugger"
You know it's funny because I am/was always one of these people who was making fun of them.
I really don't know.
I think out of ignorance.
But I realize now that I get my greatest and deepest joy out of being outside in nature.
So maybe deep down inside I am a Tree Hugger.
And you know what? There is nothing wrong with that.
Oh and did you know that every single tree supplies oxygen for up to 4 people per day?
A little known fact for you is that nature makes your heart gentle.
You become one with it....
No place for greed or anger there.
Imagine if Trees gave off WIFI Signals, we would be planting so many trees, and we would probably save The Planet too.
Too bad they only produce The Oxygen We Breathe.
.....To Be Continued.....

Wednesday, February 1, 2017

Day 77: Selfies

What is a Selfie?
A Photograph that one has taken of oneself, typically one taken with a smartphone or webcam and shared via social media.
This makes me think of another topic, Social Media.
When I was in Holland visiting my family I didn't have wifi while outside and at my mother's house, so I was just able to take a lot of pictures outside of the breathtaking landscaping and afterwards I always wondered what to do with this gorgeous pictures.
Yes there were a lot of selfies with in the background the Dutch land.
The minute I had reached WIFI at a restaurant or my dad's house, a world opened up for me because that meant that I was finally able to share the pictures from my iPhone on social media.
Don't you agree that everything in life is so much better when you are able to share that with others?
Yes I am guilty of taking a lot of selfies, but I will make sure that I accompany this with a personal story and or a quote that will help others or inspire others.
I gotta say that by taking a lot of photos you start getting good at it and seeing the beauty in pretty much everything and everybody.
Also you get to know yourself. You know when you are genuinely happy and your eyes have this sparkle.
And don't forget that we all rather relate to images/pictures then just empty words.
We are all, not just the men, visual humans.
God gave us eyes and nature amongst a lot of other things are just spectacular to look at.
I remember when I first started to see a lot of selfies on Social Media and I thought to myself; "How vain are these people? Gosh they must be so in love with themselves?'
But now I know that is not the case.
It takes courage to put your face where your mouth is.
Meaning when you show your face and express yourself that is brave.
Transparency never goes out of style.
Honestly never goes out of style.
And I know what some people are saying/thinking now, yeah it's easy to take a selfie when you are happy with your looks and/or confident.
But I am the first one to admit that no I am not confident and no I am not always happy with the way I look.
But you know what? With the right lightning and maybe with a hat on and some sunglasses or just after a gazillion tries you will be able to find that perfect selfie.
....To Be Continued....

Tuesday, January 31, 2017

Day 76: What do you really want to do in this life...

......and what are you willing to give up to get there?
This is what I am struggling with right now.
If/when I start my own home biz, I won't be available to my hubby 24/7.
So far this has been our life/relationship pattern.
We are pretty much always together and we drop everything in order to be together.
But I gotta admit when John is golfing I feel I am way more productive.
I always feel guilty if I don't pay attention to him when we are both home.
I know this is just my mindset and I am sure if I ask John this, he would say: "Honey you can do whatever you want, whenever you want".
He really is the perfect hubby for me and I got super lucky.
Okay back to my dilemma.
I want to become a Beach Body Coach because I am slightly obsessed with health and fitness and sharing my journey with others.
Like everybody else I have a story that lead me to my health obsession.
My late hubby used to be obese and passed away from a heart attack at 42 partly due to his obesity.
When I met him we started going for daily walks and I remember hating these walks but after going on enough walks I fell in love with walking and wanted to go on further walks and steeper hikes.
Nature really brought the best out in me.
We started P90X together (A BeachBody work out program) which was way to hard for me but there are so many other programs so I did Slim in 6.
I never stuck to a work out program.
So this time around I am going to start a challenge and pick a work out program that works for me.
Also I am going to publicly announce this on social media, so others can keep me accountable.
And I will commit to a daily healthy shake.
I have been trying different flavors of Shakeology and loving all the different flavors so far.
Now I just gotta buy the program and commit.
I am such a big procrastinator.
.......To Be Continued.....

Monday, January 30, 2017

Day 75: Freedom

What is freedom?
It is very personal to everyone.
When I look it up on Safari, it says, Freedom is the power of right to act, speak, or think as one wants without hindrance or restraint.
To me Freedom means living life on your own terms.
My goal in life has never been about making more money but about having the freedom to do what I want whenever I want.
Yes I fully and completely understand that you need to make money in life in order to have the freedom to do whatever you want.
But I rather work less and make a bit less and be able to stay home and just enjoy the freedom of going on a hike or a run or for a swim etc.
My hubby has the same philosophy.
After 9 years of having worked for 1 lady as her private jet pilot she wanted to pay him less money and he declined, so she let him go.
He can make way more money by flying freelance at times then full time and on call for her.
He is finally tasting freedom and he deserves it.
He was always at her back and call and he couldn't be too far from where the private jet was based.
I gotta say when you don't care what anyone thinks of you, you have reached a dangerously awesome level of freedom.
Freedom is found when we let go of who we're supposed to be and embrace who we really are.
Run from what's comfortable. Forget safety. live where you fear to live.
Destroy your reputation.
Be notorious.
My personal goal is to make an income while making an impact.
....To Be Continued.....

Saturday, January 28, 2017

Day 74: Country Club & Bomb Drop....

So, last Thursday (2 days ago), my darling hubby was gonna go golfing for the day and I had my day planned for laundry, cleaning house, selling our old headboard and frame etc.
Around noon John (hubby) face timed me and asked me to join him at the country club.
At that point I had already sold the headboard and frame and finished the laundry.
I decided to clean the house the next day and join him at our country club.
I didn't really feel like it because I just love to be home and clean.
But you know what they say: "happy wife, happy Life" and I'm sure vice versa (meaning for the hubby) the same slogan counts.
"When the king is happy, there is peace in the Kingdom"
John was super stoked when I got there and he kept saying; "look honey this is my sanctuary, and being here with you makes me the happiest man alive".
Isn't he the best?!
I gotta say it was chilly, but thank God I had dressed appropriately, in layers.
After a few hours Johns phone rang while he was golfing and I was sitting in the golf cart.
It was my sweet father in law, so I decided to pick up.
Daddy, said: "I saw on FB that you guys are golfing, but isn't John suppose to fly today? Because I see on the app on my phone that his plane is flying without him on it?
John is a private jet pilot btw.
I said I didn't know but I will get john on the phone.
John said he was gonna call his parents back once we got home.
After this phone call I didn't think much of it and we continued the game.
Now it had been a while since I saw a bathroom, so John offered to drop me off ahead at the club house, so I could go to the bathroom.
After the bathroom I decided to hop on the treadmill at the gym right next to the clubhouse to go for a quick run, because I was cold and also because I wasn't gonna make it back home in time for my daily hike with the Fit & Fabulous ladies. (My Meet Up Group).
Now my phone rang while I was running on the treadmill.
It was my father in law.
He asked me where John was and I said he had a few more holes left to golf and then he was coming to me.
Daddy said he needed to talk to John urgently.
I hopped off the treadmill and started walking towards the greens, and gave the phone to John.
That was when I realized, oh oh something is really wrong here.
......To be continued.....

Wednesday, January 25, 2017

Day 73: Photoshoot

Today was such a fun photoshoot for La Costa Living Magazine @ clothe+arrow in Oceanside CA.
It was seriously a testament of true girl power!
We all genuinely complimented each other, and we were there to help one another when needed.
10am was the start of the photo shoot but I got there nice and early.
This was a good thing because I kind of had to navigate to find the place.
Once arrived, the owner of the store got there and Lyndell was already there.
Lyndell, is one of my besties and part of my Fit & Fabulous ladies group.
Lyndell is a Stylist and she had asked me to be her model for the day.
The Photo Shoot was at a beautiful clothing boutique.
The Photographer showed up not to long after we had gotten there.
We started shooting some of the fabulous clothes.
After all this, it was time to shoot Lyndell and I had the pleasure of being her stylist.
I also helped the photographer and the shop owner and I gotta say that was FUN!
I seriously enjoy helping others and it was super nice to be able to get to know what goes into photo shoots and the behind the scenes shenanigans.
Later today a video-grapher showed up to shoot the photographer. 
The article is about Lyndell's styling business.
After our shoot Lyndell and I had a lovely lunch together in the village by the ocean.
On my way home I took some photos on the beach because of course I can't pass the gorgeous ocean without capturing it on my camera.
So, to sum up what I learned today:

Everything you need,
your courage, your strength
compassion and Love;
everything you need is already within you.

To be continued.....

Tuesday, January 24, 2017

Day 72: Consistency

Consistency, what is consistency?
What exactly does this mean?
Of course there are different kinds of consistency.
As with a lot of other words in the English dictionary.
That's why it's so hard for us foreigners to learn English.
In this case I am talking about being consistent with your words and actions.
Say what you mean and do what you say.
Aka put your money where your mouth is.
If you show up every day consistently you build trust.
Trust builds friendships/relationships.
We all want to be liked and have lots of friends.
Consistency is the key to breaking bad habits and forming good ones.
Whether professionally or personally, our habits can come to define us. 
Our good habits can lead us to make progress and become successful, while our bad habits can cause us to fail.
Habits are powerful, and they are difficult to make or break, but if can gain control over your habits --both positive and negative -- you can forge yourself into the person you want to become.

Of course gaining control over your habits is easier said than done.
Some go their whole lives without considering the fact that they can construct their own positive habits, or never succeed in breaking the habits that drag them down.
There is no shortcut to mastering your habits, since it's always going to take discipline and hard work,  but there is one principle that can guide you to a greater success rate: the idea that habits are grounded in consistency.

How habits are formed:
To be continued.....

Monday, January 23, 2017

Day 71: Self Love

Self Love = Regard for one's own well-being and happiness.

Become mindful.
People who have more self-love tend to know what they think, feel and want.
They are mindful of who they are and act on this knowledge, rather than on what others want for them.
Practicing self-love can be challenging for many of us, especially in times when we face serious challenges.
It's not about being self-absorbed or narcissistic, it's about getting in touch with ourselves, our well-being and our happiness.
We practice self-love so we can push through our limiting beliefs and live a life that truly shines.
The most loving person is the person who is self centered.
If you can not love yourself, you can not love another.
Many people make the mistake of seeking love of self through love of another.
They think if I can just love others, they will love me, than I will be lovable and I can love me.
So many people dislike themselves because they feel there is not another who loves them.
Who you are is who you create yourself to be.
You always get what you create and you are always creating.
Your life is always a result of your thoughts about it.
Get to know you!
Honor and cherish and love yourself!
You can only love another if you love yourself.
When your self-worth goes up, your net worth goes up with it.
What you focus on begins to grow.
Adopt an attitude of gratitude to sharpen your humility and attract others to you.
Use your rejection for direction and your obstacles for opportunities.
Believe in yourself and there will come a day when others have no choice but to believe in you.
To be continued.....

Sunday, January 22, 2017

Day 70: Masters & Leaders

A true master is not the one with the most students, but the one who creates the most masters.
A true leader is not the one with the most followers but one who creates the most leaders.
A true teacher is not the one with the most knowledge but one who causes the most others to have knowledge.
In today's world full of social media with Instagram Followers and Snap Chat followers and FB friends being so important to some of us, it's very easy to get side tracked.
We all have to stay true to ourself, because only then will you be successful.
Of course success will not happen without hard work that's a given.
Fear is a great indicator.
Fear is a sign that you are on the right track.
Here you push yourself out of your comfort zone.
And this is where the miracles happen.
Remember when you were afraid of the boogyman?
Remember when you were afraid to look under your bed?
When you finally did, you realized there was no boogyman.
It's all in your head.
Change your mindset.
Life is a creation not a discovery.
You do not live each day to discover what it holds for you, but to create it.
You are creating your reality every minute. Probably without knowing it.
Creating is a process of 3 things:

1) Thought
2) Word
3) Deed

Just start!
To Be Continued....

Saturday, January 21, 2017

Day 69: Voyeurism

You know it's funny when I googled my subject, it had the word "sexual" in it in every explanation.
I don't mean anything sexual by it, when I write about this.
Let me show you what safari search came up with:

Voyeur is a fairly recent addition to English.
Our earliest written evidence for the word dates from the beginning of the 20th century.
It comes directly from a French noun meaning, literally, "one who sees".....a person who gets 'sexual' pleasure from secretly watching others.

Okay let me get to my point.
On Facebook there are many of us, maybe even the majority of us, whom are just watching others and judging.
Personally I really believe that you can not judge, criticize if you do not participate.
I also believe that when you get criticized,  it's a sign that you are successful.
Successful people are loud, vocal, prominent.
Successful people are consistent.
Not pushy, but persistent & consistent.
I know what the voyeurs and/or haters are gonna say.
Why are these people always showing up in my newsfeed?
They rather hide and be sneaky while they watch the successful people climb their way to the top.
You know what? .. they can open up themselves and put a hat on, and some shades, and get into the lime light until they are secure enough and then they can show up like The Rockstars they are!
To all the Voyeurs on Facebook, take a selfie, get in front of the camera and stop hiding and judging.
You are all unique in your own way!
.....To Be Continued.....

Friday, January 20, 2017

Day 68: Overexposure

Is overexposure really an issue?
My darling hubby said the other day to me: "Baby, one of your Instagram/FB posts per week is sufficient. One per day is overbearing."
First off, I totally understand where he is coming from.
Generally my posts are geared towards women, women who are like me, always looking for purpose in this world, and always wanting to share any knowledge they get poured into them.
I read several books a day, yes not just one but several and I learn so much from them.
I don't want to lose all that wisdom but I really want to share and pay that forward.
People who meet me always say: "Wow you are so aware and you have such a wide range of interest."
To me that is such a big compliment.
All day every day I am craving knowledge.
I train my brain.
In life you do not grow if you do not learn.
Gosh I am far from perfect and I make many mistakes but I make a big effort to not make that mistake twice. ( Even though that still at times doesn't work.)
My mind is always racing.
So this is why I post.
My question to you is, "is this really such a bad thing?'
As long as I give value to others and not hurt anyone's feelings, who cares?
If it bothers others to see my face daily, just unfollow, delete, unfriend and or block me.
My mission is to be the sunshine/light to others.
And in return I ask, please do NOT hate but ADMIRE and EMULATE! (I just learned this word yesterday, don't forget I am still a foreigner).
Overexposure is NOT the issue!
Let me give you an example.
Coca Cola, Google, Apple, Mac Donald's, Microsoft, Walgreens, Starbucks, Toyota, Wells Fargo, Exxon, even Celebrities.
Should they hide their products, their faces, because they lose their value?
Because too many people are hearing about their products or seeing their faces?
If you give value to others, keep Rocking it!
You are a ROCKSTAR!
To Be Continued........

Thursday, January 19, 2017

Day 67: Independence

Are you independent?
Growing up my parents always helped me financially and even after I got married they are still there for me always.
I know this makes me a very lucky and fortunate gal.
My late hubby had his own biz and that biz supported us thankfully.
There was a time before he passed away, when we had just moved to Beverly Hills from NY that I had to step up to the plate and help out financially by working full time.
I have always been better working part time.
I know this sounds so spoiled.
I would love to work from home.
As a Corporate Flight attendant I am working Freelance, so really not a lot.
I would love to fly more often, and work from home doing a network marketing company or whatever promotes Health & Wellness.
Right now my hubby pays all the bills and gives me spending money on top of all that.
In arguments he loves to throw that in my face.
I guess we all know how to successfully push each others buttons.
So yes daily I'm racking my brain on how to, and with what company I want to start with.
I am just such a perfectionist and everything has to be in place before I start.
Also I don't really want my hubby to pay for the start up investment.
And my hubby is home most of the time because he only flies like 60 hrs per year.
So he's pretty much living a retired life at 42 years young.
We love to spend a lot of time together and I drop everything and anything I'm doing always just to be together and watch tv or pretty much do nothing together but talk and laugh a lot, which is obviously not a bad life to be living.
But I really want to do more and be more.
I sincerely want to help others with sharing what worked for me in life.
Not saying I'm some sort of expert but I do know that I have a successful marriage and I know what works and what doesn't work in the health and fitness world.
To be continued......

Wednesday, January 18, 2017

Day 66: Distractions

Question: "Do you think we got more done in the past when Facebook and all other social media didn't exist? "
Distractions are just everywhere in life and I think it has to do more with focus and self-discipline.
We can all relate to the silly distractions that come up while we are studying and/or trying to focus on one particular task.
Our mind starts to wonder and drift off.
In this case, mediation has been very helpful to me.
10% happier by Dan Harris from Good Morning America has been my "go to" app.
Also they say if you keep reminding yourself of your visions and future goals, this will be super helpful.
That's why creating a vision board is a great way to keep visualizing your dreams and goals.
You can make e a virtual vision board and keep it saved on your phone and computer desktop.
Another helpful tool is just setting your timer on your phone for like 30 min at a time (or 60 min depending on the task).
Amazon has some fun tools, like a colorful sandglass/hourglass in your fav color or a Datexx The Miracle Cube Timer.
Finishing pesky tasks doesn't have to be boring anymore.
Also make sure you start with the biggest task, the task you are dreading the most.
Kind of like starting your day with "eating that frog" first.
You will feel a sense of accomplishment.
Researching google/Pinterest/YouTube has been super helpful to me.
This is where all the answers are.
Because we all know that if we have a question about something, bet your bottom dollar that someone else had that same question before you.
We don't have to re-invent the wheel but just follow other leaders for inspiration and motivation.
To Be Continued......

Tuesday, January 17, 2017

Day 65: Multi Level Marketing

What are your thoughts on Multi Level Marketing aka Network Marketing.
So, I have been playing with the idea of joining Team Beach Body.
Okay, where do I start?
My late husband used to be obese.
He passed away due to that.
Yes he lost all the weight with surgeries and lots of pain and hard work.
But the damage had already been done.
His excess weight was pushing down on his vital organs.
He was pretty much a ticking time bomb.
420 lbs and 6'3 were his measurements.
After the gastric bypass and the plastic surgery (he needed plastic surgery after gastric bypass, because the skin wasn't not going anywhere), he was 220 lbs, so he pretty much lost "a person"
When I met Erik he was all about working out and eating healthy.
This is not easy, especially as an obese person.
We did the Team Beach Body P90X program together.
I became a coach, he became a coach.
But we sucked at it.
We gave up a year later, and he passed away at 42 years young from a Heart attack.
Now years later I am married for the second time and I still live the healthy lifestyle.
That is why I am considering joining again but this time I really want to help others get healthy and of course I want to be living proof.
Yes there are a lot of Network Marketing companies but this one really has been growing so fast like Apple and Google and Youtube and Facebook.
What do you think?
To be continued.....