Life can be an enormously rewarding experience; a totally fulfilling and creative experience where virtually every activity is seen as yet another wonderful opportunity.
Although it's often treated as one, life is not an emergency; it's not meant to be constantly postponed while we anxiously rush around and attempt to 'get everything done'.
Life is meant to be lived, one moment at a time.
Whether you are 18 years old or 80 years old, male or female, dark or light, rich or poor, you are given the same gift and it's administered in exactly the same way.
The gift is life itself and it's given to us one precious moment at a time.
Life isn't an emergency, it's an adventure.
Once you commit yourself to seeing life this way you will be amazed at how quickly your life will change for the better.
You will notice the beauty instead of the ugliness, the caring instead of the non-caring, and the grace instead of the misfortune.
Remember, life is NOT an emergency!
Hello Anna,
ReplyDeleteI’m sure this is going to come at somewhat of a surprise considering we haven’t spoken in about 5 years but, there are some things I need to say.
Because of the time of year it is, I’ve been thinking about my Dad a lot and how things happened when he passed away. What I’ve come to realize is that there are a lot of things that were done without my knowledge or my input because I was only 16 at the time. I came across your blog after finding your Instagram page and decided to give it a read to see if you had any more information about his passing than I did. Unfortunately, what I found was seriously devastating, inappropriate, and downright mean.
In your blog posts you talk a lot about the events leading up to his passing and the day that it all actually happened. However, what you failed to do was use factual information. You stated that it was mine and my sister’s request to cremate our Dad…this is completely false. I had zero say in what was to happen with my Dad’s remains; as a 16 year old, I didn’t spend much time thinking about that sort of thing. Emily certainly had no say in that considering she was only 10 years old when this happened, so that is entirely untrue.
You also talked about how you felt it would be weird for us to stay at the apartment where you and my Dad lived. I cannot fathom why you would not allow your stepchildren (at the time) to stay at the apartment the days after their father passed away. I understand not wanting Jill or Mindy to stay there because of the animosity between them and my Dad but, it’s different when it comes to his children. In addition to that, I reached out to you a few months after his passing to see if you had any photos, clothing, etc. of his that you could pass on to Emily and I as we both only have a few things. I received no response from you which, again, I think is incredibly heartless and cowardly of you. Did you not think we deserved to have any of our Dads stuff?
The main reason I am writing this to you is because of the heinous and disgusting things you wrote about my Mom in your blog post. It’s one thing to write something about my Dad’s cremation but another to insinuate my Mom contributed to him passing away. Here is quote from your post, “She fought him for a lot of money throughout his lifetime and I really believe that added to his stress and you know what they say: ‘stress kills’”. I know that my parents did not get along after their divorce, I know both of them made mistakes, and I know finances were a really touchy subject between the two of them. However, to say that that tension in some way resulted in him passing away is completely absurd. There were a lot of other things going on in his life, both physically and mentally, that may have contributed to him passing. It is downright wrong to speculate that mistakes or things my Mom said genuinely contributed to his passing.
Furthermore, you talked about how my mom received a “cool million” dollars from my Dad’s life insurance. If you honestly believe that’s true then you are seriously misinformed. My Mom gained $0.00 from my Dad passing away. She is in charge of the money because of mine and my sister’s ages, however, that does not mean she received all of that money for herself, like you said in your post. Also, there is literally zero reason that you should have received any money so I’m not entirely sure why you were complaining about that in your post.
Did you have 2 children with him? Were you married to him for over 10 years? Did you help him start his business? Was your name on his life insurance policy?
The answer to those all of those questions is ‘no’.
ReplyDeleteHis life insurance policy was set up in a way that would be a safety net for my sister and I in the event that something unexpected happened to him. WE ARE HIS CHILDREN. We were and always would have been his #1 priority in life. His job as a parent is to protect us and by having his insurance policy that noted my Mom as the authority, he did. He knew that she was the most equipped, rational, and responsible person which is why she remained on his policy. In a life or death situation, she was the one dealing with the finances which is clearly what he wanted.
Also, for you to complain about not getting any money is mind blowing. The fact that you were even thinking about money after your husband passed away is revolting. I truly hope you’ve grown since then because that is an ugly mindset to have.
Don’t get me wrong, I am 100% for voicing your feelings and using writing as a coping mechanism. But, if you’re going to do so please have the courtesy to use different names and have the facts straight before putting that information out for everyone to see.
-Samantha