Day 115: Rude Awakening

So even though I hit another milestone within my company, I gotta step up my game Big Time!

We all strive to become better humans and for perfection within ourselves.

I started my business Feb 18, 2017 and so far I got 4 teamies (gals working with me, whom I like to consider sisters) actually in my company we do call ourselves Y-sisters = Younique Sisters.

Okay this is what I've realized, even though I got 4 Teamies now, I can't rest and sit back and enjoy the ride.

I gotta work harder and show "my sisters" how it's done. 

I have to lead by example.

Same like in marriage, once you sign on the dotted line, you still gotta work at your relationship.

So many times married people say to people whom are dating; "if you don't like what you see in your relationship now, it won't get better once you are married."

I tend to give up when things get hard in life, except within marriage, I would like to consider myself a good wife.

I like to be old fashioned and take care of my husband, meaning cleaning house, doing laundry, cooking etc.

I love being married and I feel flattered that one guy on this planet signed on the dotted line just for me, out of all the ladies in this world.

This makes me feel like a winner.

But we still have to work at our relationship.

Same like in business, we gotta keep working hard and keep re-discovering ourselves.

Being creative and pushing through the fear.

The adrenaline rush you feel when things go great and others want to join YOUR team out of all the other teams, is a spectacular feeling.

Finally I found my passion.

What's your passion?

Day 114: Life is NOT an emergency!

Life isn't an emergency.

Life can be an enormously rewarding experience; a totally fulfilling and creative experience where virtually every activity is seen as yet another wonderful opportunity. 

Although it's often treated as one, life is not an emergency; it's not meant to be constantly postponed while we anxiously rush around and attempt to 'get everything done'.

Life is meant to be lived, one moment at a time.

Whether you are 18 years old or 80 years old, male or female, dark or light, rich or poor, you are given the same gift and it's administered in exactly the same way.

The gift is life itself and it's given to us one precious moment at a time.

Life isn't an emergency, it's an adventure.

Once you commit yourself to seeing life this way you will be amazed at how quickly your life will change for the better.

You will notice the beauty instead of the ugliness, the caring instead of the non-caring, and the grace instead of the misfortune.

Remember, life is NOT an emergency!

Day 113: Wisdom

Wise people throughout history have been those who saw that while life is real, life's problems are an illusion, they are thought-created. These people know that we manufacture and blow problems way out of proportion through are own ability to think. They also know that if we can step outside the boundaries of our own thinking, we can find the answer we are looking for.

This, in a nutshell is wisdom: the ability to see an answer without having to think of an answer.

Wisdom is the 'ah ha, that's so obvious' experience most of us have had many times.

Few people seem to understand that this voice is always available to us.

Wisdom is indeed your inner sense of knowing.

It is true mental health, a peaceful state of mind where answers to questions are as plentiful as the problems you see when you aren't experiencing wisdom.

It's as if wisdom lies in the space between your thoughts, in those quiet moments when your 'biological computer' is turned off.

Here is an example.

As an intelligent person, your usual pattern is to think and talk about your problems in an attempt to overcome them.

You feel that because your problems are 'real', you are justified in trying to solve them.

On the surface this seems rational, that is, until you realize that problems are thought-related.

In other words, the act of thinking about your problems is the mechanism that keeps them alive and makes them seem real.

To see this another way, try this experience.

Stop reading for a moment and think of a problem in your life.

There it is, right in front of you.

An interesting question to ask yourself is: where was the problem a moment ago, before you thought about it?

It wasn't with you because you weren't thinking about it.

This doesn't mean there aren't issues in  your life that need addressing, but it does suggest that those issues aren't 'problems' unless they are present in your mind.

Day 112: I think YOU are AWESOME!!!

There is only one way to avoid criticism.

Do nothing, say nothing, BE NOTHING.

This is such an amazing quote and super true.

Pleasing everyone doesn't lead to an exciting life.

It's also impossible because everyone has different views.

There will ALWAYS be people out there, who don't agree with you.

When you live to please one person, you disappoint another.

My humble conclusion....live your live according to you!

YOUR dreams

YOUR goals

YOUR hobbies

YOUR passions

YOUR ideal

YOUR beliefs

Don't walk over others in the process.

Be kind.

Have a good heart.

Thank people for their opinions BUT don't let them knock you!

Opinions don't change reality.

They are just opinions.

I think YOU are AWESOME!!!

Day 111: Are you a Duck or an Eagle?

Don't quack like a Duck, but soar like an Eagle.
It's the power of choice.
You can be a Duck or an Eagle.
Ducks quack and complain, Eagles soar above the crowd.
Change your attitude.
If you get up in the morning, expecting to have a bad day, you'll rarely disappoint yourself.
Stop complaining!
It's easy if you try.
Ducks are easy to recognize. They think in Duck-like ways. They spend all day in the Duck pond with their little Duck friends.
Their responses sound like quack, quack, quack as they try to convince others that they are right.
The Ducks often tend to quote the rules or policy manual to try to avoid hard questions or as a reason to avoid solving a problem. Ducks are often guilty of the exact same things that they often quack (complain) about.
Ducks have no idea that soaring above them all the time are Eagles.
Eagles are people who have found success and soar above conflict.
Eagles are optimistic and choose a positive attitude.
Eagles are always aware of the 'Ducks' existence and the dangers that looms within the Duck pond.
Ducks can be very sneaky. They have a way of luring others to join the Duck pond.....this includes Eagles once caught in the pond, Eagles will quack along with the Ducks and can often find it difficult to leave. Some are able to leave immediately....others it may take much longer.
But most Eagles will leave the pond eventually and begin soaring the skies again.
But the majority of Ducks are Ducks.
They will never change, even with extensive counseling or training.
Ducks and Eagles can be nearly found in every situation.
You see them in your offices, homes, churches and organizations.
You see them in families and groups of friends.
You'll encounter them as you go run your errands.
The bank, grocery store, dry cleaner, restaurants, etc.
The Ducks will let you know, how difficult their job is and what an inconvenience you are.
Eagles go above and beyond to provide excellent service....even if it's just with their positive attitude and general likability.
Ducks and Eagles are easy to identify.
Look around. I'm sure you can easily identify who belongs in each group.
However, do you know what group YOU belong in?

Day 110: Let me give you a piece of my mind....

Our days are happier when we give people a bit of our heart, rather than a piece of our mind.

We will rise just by lifting others.

Speak in such a way, that others love to listen to you.

Listen in such a way, that others love to speak to you.

You know it's easy to play the blame game.

Point your finger at someone else right now, you will notice that 4 of your fingers will point right back at you!

Don't play a victim, get over yourself and snap out of it, because if you don't, the only one you bother with that attitude is YOU!

I became a widow very young and I had no idea how to deal with loss.

I failed miserably at it.

I failed forward.

But the reason I got over it, is because I snapped out of it.

I had to.

A woman who walks in PURPOSE doesn't have to chase PEOPLE or OPPORTUNITIES.

Her LIGHT causes PEOPLE and OPPORTUNITIES to PURSUE her.

Leadership is really about making OTHERS better as a result of your presence, and making sure that impact lasts in your absence.

Also work hard at your passions and be YOU!

The right people who belong in your life will come find you and stay.

Do your thing!

You are what you DO, not what you SAY!

We still gotta learn things the hard way but don't ever forget to just treat others how you want to be treated.

When we all support each other, incredible things happen.

And at times just be silent, because that's when the answers will come to you.

To Be Continued.......

Day 109: FEAR!

Never trust your fears, they don't know your strength.

Our fear reveals what we care about the most.

I decided to just fail forward.

No more what if....for me.

I am going only one way in this life and that is to the top.

If you wanna join me, you are welcome.

If not, that's super cool as well.

I sincerely want to get to know people and build genuine friendships.

Yes on the way of course we all stumble upon some "rotten apples" but that's just life!

We are living in 2017 where all the doors are wide open to pretty much do whatever your heart desires.

Social Media is an incredible easy platform.

For so long I have been "behind the scenes" watching others rise to the top.

Why not ME?

I figured if I'm "hanging out" on Social Media anyways why not make money while "hanging out".

I am going to share my story, because my story is Unique to me.

Nobody has MY STORY and that makes me different.

If I can help 1 person with just sharing my story, that will be a blessing to me.

In life you will get chances at things so great, they scare you senseless, because you have no freaking clue how they are going to turn out, but either you jump that chasm and into the fullness of your potential, or you stay behind in Fear's comfy little lair, where you can from a safe distance, watch your dreams on the other side slip away from you.

The choice is yours.

Fears are stories we tell ourselves.

Stop being afraid of what could go wrong, and start being excited of what could go right.

In the end, we only regret the chances we didn't take, relationships we were afraid to have, and the decisions we waited too long to make.

.....To Be Continued.....